Jeff Zelmer, head of marketing operations at Urban Orchid, suggests a bloom to give no matter your Facebook status.
1. It's Complicated ↝ You haven't made it Facebook official yet, but fret not young lover, impress your bae with the birds of paradise. "It gives a cool, contemporary look," says Zelmer.
2. Married ↝ "Ninety percent of people want red roses in their bouquet, but we have noticed a lot of people moving beyond that," says Zelmer. Incorporating flowers from your wedding is a nice touch, but also consider pink or lavender roses instead of red — they stand for gratitude and regal majesty.
3. Dating ↝ If you're committed but not ready to put a ring on it, go big and bold with Gerber daisies. "It's very colorful, it's long-lasting," says Zelmer. "It's a large bloom, so it's impressive."
Two locals make the case for and against celebrating the affection-filled holiday.
Valentine's Day is just a day you're supposed to be nice and buy things and go out to dinner, and those "you're supposed to" things never make sense to me anyway. If my husband came home with a necklace or a bracelet for me, I would be like, What are you doing? That's weird. My husband is romantic every day. We cook every night and we cook really well, so going out to a restaurant isn't always better food for us. Every day should be special. — Terra Milo, 37, married
We get in such a mindset of that one person and that one meaningful relationship, and then we bypass all of the meaningful relationships we actually have. Valentine's Day is a representation of love and a celebration of that, and love comes in many forms. To be honest, the most important person you're going to date your whole life is yourself. So you should treat yourself. One Valentine's Day I took myself out on a date, and it was all about me.— Brian Schultz, 26, single
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Fill your Valentine's Day with small, meaningful gestures, says Kathy Dawson, a licensed relationship coach. Feed the flame with these four steps.
Do: Cook a meal with foods tinted red or leave love notes on the bathroom mirror. "Make a memory," she says.
Buy: Don't stress over what to buy. "Give what you want to give," she says. "Just tell the story behind the gift because that's the real gift."
Eat: Try blindfolding your partner and feed him or her different food with various textures, tastes and smells, which can overload the senses for a sensual experience. "It's very romantic and kind of vulnerable," Dawson says.
Make: Compile a top 10 list of what you love about your partner, and then compare lists with one another. "People don't fall out of love, they forget out of love," she says. "You need to keep what you love about that person near you to look at it on a regular basis."
We check on a few former Cleveland Magazine Sexy Singles.
Tom Kondilas, 34
The 2009 Sexy Single met Liz Conway in 2005 while auditioning at Great Lakes Theater. But it wasn't until they played spouses in Plant Life at Convergence Continuum two years ago that sparks flew. The couple wed last September. "She's this creative ball of energy that works really well with who I am," he says.
Joanne (Montz) Wheeler, 46
In her 2011 Sexy Single story, she said her perfect date was golf and dinner. So Steven Wheeler organized a golf date at Mayfield Sand Ridge Club under the guise of a charity outing and hid a bottle of rose in his golf bag. "Everything I say, he just does it," says Wheeler, who married Steven last June. "He always puts me first."
Match our Sexy Singles with their relationship status.
1. Aaron Goldhammer
Andrea Vecchio (2007)
A. In a relationship
2. Andrea Vecchio
Jen Toohey (2006)
B. Married Nov. 20, 2010
3. Gary Barnidge
Gary Barnidge (2015)
4. Jen Toohey
Aaron Goldhammer (2010)
D. Married Sept. 1, 2013
Sexy Single 2007: Dating
I think it's worth waiting for somebody who really compliments your life. [Geoff and I] met at a Cleveland Indians' opening day party at Red, the Steakhouse, and we've been dating for 7 months now. He's one of the smartest people I've ever met in my life. I love the way that his mind works and how he challenges me to learn new things. — as told to James Bigley II
Dating Tip: Spend your time filling yourself up and finding your own joy, and you'll ultimately end up attracting the right person.
Sexy Single 2015: Single
Here's the thing, I travel a lot, whether it's just vacation or with my nonprofit. I'll be going to Australia, New Zealand, Hawaii and the Bahamas this year for vacation, and then I'm going to Egypt for my nonprofit. You might meet people when you travel, but then you're only there for a week or two and then you're gone again. [Dating] is about getting to know people. I think that's the hardest part because you've got to make sure that they can see me for me and not for my job and schedule. — as told to James Bigley II
Dating Tip: You can never experience too much. Meet as many people as you can until you find that one. Don't settle just to settle.
Sexy Single 2010: Married Sept. 1, 2013
We joke that we like to get into all kinds of crazy adventures together. It's her willingness to jump in and have fun with whatever is going on that is really one of the big things that I love. She's just somebody who, if I've had a bad day, I can come home to, and she always has a way of making me feel better. She's just someone who makes my life easier. — as told to James Bigley II
Dating Tip: You have to think about what kind of person you're looking for, and then you have to think about where that person probably is.
Sexy Single 2006: Married Nov. 20, 2010
We hadn't been dating very long at all, and we were in his apartment and we were laughing and talking about '90s boy bands and music we used to like back in the day. He told me that, when he had lived with his mom for a bit, he had this exercise video where they taught you the entire dance routine to "Bye Bye Bye" from 'N Sync. I never thought in a million years he'd do it, but don't you know, he got up and did this silly dance and he knew every move. I just remember that moment so vividly because I thought, I can't believe this guy is willing to do this and open up and be silly and brave. To do something like that in front of a girl you really don't know and to trust me to do something like that, I found it really kind of magical. That was a big moment for me in falling in love with him. We dated for about two years and then we got engaged in 2010 and married in 2010. — as told to James Bigley II
Dating Tip: Meeting people and knowing their true intentions is always an important thing and sometimes hard to decode.